glass of wine every day before dinner. I never go beyond that.
My 2 year old child watches this and she says that daddy is drinking juice.
So is it OK for me drink before child every day?
Appreciate your responses.
I like to relax in the evening, so I have a 12 oz beer or a small glass of wine every day before dinner. I never go beyond that.
My 2 year old child watches this and she says that daddy is drinking juice.
So is it OK for me drink before child every day?
Appreciate your responses.
As long as you aren’t getting drunk or ignoring your child then I think it is good for her to see you drink in moderation. I think it takes the mystery out of alcohol and she will not be tempted to try it when she gets older. But do not lie to her about it being juice. Tell her the truth about what it is and that it is for grown ups only. We never hid alcohol from our kids and had no trouble with the teen years and now that they are adults one doesn’t drink at all and the other drinks maybe 1 beer a day. Good luck!
Why wouldnt it be OK? You are an adult and as long as you are not getting drunk I don’t see what the problem is. I think it’s fine to let her think it is juice right now but I would explain that it’s really wine or beer and it’s only for grown-ups in the next year.
we dont drink anything in front of our son that he cant have a sip of i say wait til after they go to bed
Fine by me. If she thinks you’re just drinking juice, then there is no harm in that. But, make sure she doesn’t see the bottle of wine or she’ll think “Hey, I want some juice” and she could pour some for herself.
i agree with the top hat lady..
i don’t see the harm in it.. as long as your not falling down drunk 🙂
Sure why not? My husband drinks in front of our daughter. She never questions it or anything. We just tell her it’s an “adult drink”.
maybe you should wait to have it when she goes to bed.
I’m sure that there are plenty of people who will get all upset and say this is the wrong thing to do, but I think it’s almost a good thing. If she’s seeing people having a single drink, and being moderate, that’s a great example for her to have. It’s better than having her watch you drink only on weekends, and until you become intoxicated. At 2 she doesn’t even know what you’re drinking, so I wouldn’t worry at this point.
thats not a bad thing….its not like you are getting drunk infrot of your child…..shouldnt be a problem…..the time will come she’ll prob want to try it though…..
YES, JUST REASURE YOUR DAUGHTER THAT YOU ARE DRINKING JUICE.
Umm…unless she is sitting there matching you drink for drink then yes it is alright. However, if she thinks that daddy is drinking “juice” then she is intelligent enough for you to begin teaching her right from wrong. Let her know that it is not juice. It is a glass of wine or a beer and it is for grown ups only not little kids. Please don’t be one of those parents who lets there kids sip wine because it “helps blood flow” or drink beer because “it kills the worms”. I was one of those kids thanks to select relatives and I spent my 20’s over the toilet. I say this as a nurse (11 years) START THE TRAINING NOW!!! Or you can pick her up at the kegger when she’s 16…your choice.
I think everyone is going to have an opinion, but the decision to drink in front of your child is a personal one. Make a decision on what you think is best and stick with it.
I HONESTLY DO NOT SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH IT…I DO IT ONCE IN A WHILE.
yeah as long you don’t let her have a taste of beer or anything and keep in mind when she gets alot older, she will realize you are drinking beer. also when she gets older, explain to her about drugs and what happens when you drink alcohol and show her good example of responsible drinking too.
I think it’s fine but I think you should tell her it’s not juice, it’s beer.
If its just one glass, after work, and you don’t pass out or act like a weirde drunk then yes. Don’t give her any!!!!!
I really don’t see a problem with it. Drinking in moderation (1 glass a day is moderate) is good for you and maybe she won’t go hog wild with liquor when she’s older if she sees it used responsibly since she’s young.
I live in Europe. Here everyone does this every day. (I don’t, but I’m American).
i say wait til after your child goes to bed or do it when they arent in the room. because soon they learn “beer” and “wine” and they start calling their juice that. i know this because my friends sons did that with their juice boxes. its not harming them but if ever by chance they went in the refridgerator or anything and got one, they would find out its not so much juice as they thought. but even if you keep drinking “juice” infront of her, just explain to her when shes old enough to understand that you do it just to relax and not to get totally sloshed and that you can have fun with only one drink and that your responsible by having limits
I don’t see a problem with it. I drank in front of both my children. As others have posted, just don’t get drunk LOL
glass of wine every day before dinner. I never go beyond that.
My 2 year old child watches this and she says that daddy is drinking juice.
So is it OK for me drink before child every day?
I’m not a parent, for so many reasons, but I would say two things:
1) It’s not wrong to do this, and in fact as she gets older it can become a great learning experience for her. My best friend was raised by a couple of wine aficionados, and she was taught from an early age that wines (and other alcohols) are something that should be *enjoyed*, and not merely slurped down in large amounts for the sake of intoxication.
2) I would start now and point out that you are not drinking juice. Just like they say you’re not ever supposed to refer to pills as “candy” to a child, lest the kids decide to consume more than they really should. It’d be up to you and mommy to decide if she should be allowed to sample the wine and see for herself that it’s not juice. (Just from personal experience: if you’re drinking red wine, I suspect one sip would be all it takes to keep her off the stuff for a good while yet. 😉
I don’t think that is ok cuz I think she is goning follow after you lead.. So just go into another room or something.. Please don’t over drink cuz stuff sometimes can get out of hand.
As long as you don’t give her any, and you don’t over do it.
I don’t see a problem with it. As long as you are not getting drunk in front of her.
I’m sure it’s fine. A nice glass of wine never hurt anyone. As long as you are being responsible and not getting drunk in front of your little girl, I don’t see anything wrong with it.
it’s okay to have wine. NOT ANY OTHER TYPE OF ALCOHOL in front of the kid . . she might as she grows older thinks it’s okay. but if you teach her good values. then it’s okay
just be careful && DON:T give her a bad infulence!
Try not to. Wouldn`t you enjoy it more when she is in bed and you could sit and savor it?
i dont know, i would have to say use your own judgement on this one. if you dont think it is affecting her ability to do anything or grow as a little person, then go for it, drink your juice.
I don’t see a problem with if as long as they witness responsible drinking and don’t see you getting drunk. I say that because they will follow your example.
It’s probably debatable though.
Yeah a glass of wine I think is fine. kids prob dont know whats in it. Unless they ask for a sip. Beer is diffrent because its in a bottle or can and it all looks the same. You dont want her to say someday that “oh my daddy and/or Mommy drink that all the time. Over all tho I think its okay you are the adult, you can do what you want
If you’re not drinking to excess and laying around drunk, of course it is okay! I believe it will show her how to have a healthy appreciation for wine/beer as she grows up. When my son was 2, he once said to me in the grocery store “You like beer Mommy??” very loudly. I was a little embarassed, as the lil old ladies just looked at me, but I told him “Yes, honey, I like beer”. Just make sure she is not having a drink of your “juice”…LOL.
I dont see anything wrong with that! My aunt does it too. She says its a calm pleasure for her and she only has one glass. If ya go beyond that than yeah you shouldnt drink, but ONE glass is nothing! Just make sure u keep out of her reach!! They have non-alcohol wine for children! Have her do the same with u! So she can feel like shes fit in with u! Its something fun for her if mommy does it why cant I??
Personally, I do not see anything wrong with it. With my own child, I do try to save drinking a wine or a beer until after she is asleep. (It is much more enjoyable that way!) But I think that as long as you do not abuse alcohol, then you are fine. Plus, at that age, they really have no idea the difference between what you are drinking.
I am in a high pressure business and I like to enjoy a glass of brandy or scotch when I get home before dinner. We drink wine and beer in front of the kids. they understand that it is an adult drink and that if you drink too much you can get sick. I also let them sip a taste of any new drink I am having. i would rather end their curiosity in front of me than to have them drink behind my back and ingest too much. My three kids understand that wine, beer, and booze is something that adults like to enjoy and that it should be done in moderation.
I grew up in a european household. My father is a german citizen living in the states. My mother is italian and we have drank beer or wine with dinner or at family outtings since I was a small child. I think at 2, it’s not a big issue. You could be drinking “moo juice” for milk or “juice” for soda…it shouldn’t be a concern at that age what they think your juice really is. As they get older, get curious…it should be explained that it is indeed an adult drink. When they older, as in 10 or older and they ask, sit down and explain it in depth that it is only a once a day thing, you don’t abuse it, drive, hurt anyone, etc. When we make children see things as taboo and make things so blown out of proportion, they are more apt to want to experiment and do dumb stuff down the road. Just my two cents. I have a 12 yr old and he’s seen how alcohol can be abused by an uncle and he recognized it as dumb and childish and damaging in so many way. Good luck!
RollingSands
on November 30th, -0001
i would say so yes. It’s not like you’re getting trollied in front of the child are you?!
Dolphinswimmer
on November 30th, -0001
NO !!!!! Because if she thinks it is juice 1 day she may decide to taste of your “juice”.
Erin
on November 30th, -0001
yes i feel it is ok to have a glass of wine in front of your child. But I don’t think i would lie to your child making her believe it is juice. Beings what if you get up from the table and she takes a drink believing it is juice. I would tell her that it is daddy’s drink and it is yucky for little girls/boys to drink any.
StarGirl
on November 30th, -0001
Well if it bothers you then don’t do it, but other wise if it is only a glass then go ahead if you want one.
Cashsplash
on November 30th, -0001
Absolutely. I call it adult juice 🙂
SkateRForeveR
on November 30th, -0001
Yes, there is nothing wrong w/ having a glass of wine in front of your kid. It’s not like you are getting s*it faced.
Gunship
on November 30th, -0001
I have struggled with this personally as well. I have 3 boys and my kids were all too curious about why I wouldn’t let them drink the “juice” when any other time I would let them drink out of my cup with other liquids. I explained that it was a grown up drink and didn’t help little kids grow big and strong. I also decided to poor the alcohol into a different glass so they couldn’t see the label. On occasion, I would buy them the non-alcoholic fizzing grape juice and they, of course, thought that was big stuff. I think it’s a personal preference and it’s your business. Personally, I don’t think it is harmful as long as you drink responsibly and have limitations. You as a parent know what they are. If you feel wrong about it, then do it after they go to bed.
Gideeup
on November 30th, -0001
Like my 3 year old would say, ” When I grow up, Iam also having a Celveza..
ReadyToLaunch
on November 30th, -0001
Wow—you drink one glass a day? Sounds like you are an alcoholic
Xfactor
on November 30th, -0001
If you have no compunction whatsoever, in drinking in front of your daughter, then suppose some day she drinks like you too….what excuse will you use to stop her from doing so ?
What will be your reason for telling her why not to drink ? Perhaps you should go a little further. Try some kind of drug, little bit of drugs ever day, but do it front of your daughter.
Suppose someday, you tell her not to drink. What will you say if she says that she has seen you drink. So if you can drink why cant she drink ?
You should see the movie ” Trainspotting “. There is a very nice description of what happens to a little baby when the parents are busy using drugs.
Children are very clever and they understand a whole lot more than you will ever give them credit for. So instead of having two different standards try to follow a single standard for yourself and the Kids.
Fractalfallout
on November 30th, -0001
It’s fine…in fact, it’s important that you demonstrate responsible drinking habits. The child learns more by example than by words.
If she sees daddy only having one with dinner, then she sees that that’s all you need. If she were to see you getting blitzed every night, that would send the opposite message.
Bottom line, shielding your child from life makes them less responsible because they’re unaware…not safer.
TotallyChilled
on November 30th, -0001
I have to agree with Trid, displaying responisble use of alcohol in front of your child will provide a buffer against all the irresponsible usage she will see when she grows up a bit. I think you should explain that you are drinking wine, because it is a grown-up drink that makes your dinner taste better.
PassionForDance
on November 30th, -0001
I would say it’s fine. Especially if you discuss it with her and let her know that alcohol is a legal substance approved for ADULT consumption. Also you can point out to her that daddy only ever has one, because you know how to be responsible. I’ve let my kids know that alcohol can be a dangerous thing (for various reasons) when used irresponsibly and that it is not for people under a certain age.
Tuskey
on November 30th, -0001
Why on earth not?